I just got back from the clinic. I had to go and start all my paperwork, do blood work, and all that other fun stuff to get my birth control. I dread this place, and I was dreading having to do all the tests....peeing in a cup, blood work, and blood pressure, because it just reminds me of being pregnant and having to do all that every month! I was expecting to have a rough time, but I was not expecting to have a not so enjoyable experience with the LVN. She made me want to yell at her and punch her in the throat!
Here's how our conversations pretty much went:
LVN: "How many pregnancies have you had?"
ME: "3"
LVN: "How many living children?"
ME: "1"
LVN: "Ok, so what happened with the other 2? Miscarriage?"
ME: "One miscarriage, one stillbirth."
LVN: "Ok, so you've only gone through one delivery?"
ME: "No, I've gone through 2. My youngest was stillborn at 37 weeks so I delivered him also." (I started slightly crying here)
LVN: "What are the dates of the miscarriage and stillbirth?"
ME: "Miscarriage was May 2, 2011; and stillbirth was Feb. 11, 2012."
LVN: "Oh wow that's still pretty fresh and recent, no wonder you're still upset about it."
(I start crying a little harder here because I start getting mad)
"They always say everything happens for a reason, or there was a problem or something wrong with the fetus. Give it some more time and you'll get over it."
I kept my mouth shut but here's what I was yelling at her in my head:
"Yes, it is still recent and I am still upset about it....and I will be for the rest of my life! Everything happens for a reason? Really? Enlighten me as to what this reason could possibly be that could make me feel better. Something was wrong with the fetus? First of all, he was 37 weeks and bigger than a lot of newborns....he was a baby, not a fetus! And give it time?? Are you serious? Give it time and I will get over my baby dying? Wow, maybe you shouldn't be a nurse because you're pretty stupid!"
I want to punch her too, please, may I? I knew reading your post would make me mad at the nurse. Why are people such assholes? Really? Ughh. Jess, I want you to know you are a wonderful, strong, courageous woman and I respect you more than I can even speak in words. You and Jason are two of the greatest people I know. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteShe was horribly insensitive and obviously not very well trained. I'm sorry you had to deal with that today. You shouldn't be expected "to get over it". Over time the pain will get a little less, but I don't see how someone would ever think that you would "get over it". If you have to go back call me and I'll go with you if you would like.
ReplyDeletePlease call and complain on her. That needs to be in her work file. She should have just shut up.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry this happened to you...
Oh my. Im so sorry you had to listen to a stupid so called lvn. I really dont think she should be in the field she is in. I so would have said something to her. That is so riducolus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't quite know how I missed this but DAMN! This woman would be beat down as many people want to punch her. What in the world was she thinking? She'd been better off keeping her mouth shut! Oh, and last time I checked, by definition, a stillborn is over 20wks old and yea, they have to be delivered stupid wench! Oh don't get me started. Let me just stop my rant here and say I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that and please please report her so at the very least she can get some training. UGH!
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